Reflections on a New Year



Another year has come and gone.   Another opportunity to make (and if you’re like me, break) New Year’s resolutions. Maybe this will be the year I exercise more, eat more vegetables, or yell less at my kids. Sound familiar?

One thing I am going to commit to more this year is being “present.”   If this year has taught me anything, it’s that time goes by too fast. Debbie Reynolds’ death the day after her daughter’s shows the power of human connection and the mother-daughter bond.

What does being “present” mean? I’m not talking about physical presence here, more about mental presence. Quality over quantity, not that there’s anything wrong with quantity. To me, this means putting down my phone, and really “being” with the people I love. Or even when I’m not on my phone, getting out of my head and paying attention to what people are saying or not saying. Most importantly, taking a moment to acknowledge this experience or time.

I’ve found myself a few times recently putting down my phone and actually watching my kids do something rather than watching through my phone screen. Guess what? I can re-watch the experience in my mind rather than on my poorly shot video. (Maybe some of you video better than I do!)

Another thing I’m going to try to do is stop comparing my life to everyone else’s on Facebook. Sound familiar? Rationally, I know that we all put our best moments on Facebook, and people aren’t sharing the tough stuff, but that doesn’t stop me from thinking everyone else’s life is more exciting/cool/fun than mine. I do believe that Facebook (or other social media) induced depression is real, because we live in a society that is measured by “have’s” and “have not’s.”

My last resolution is to remember to breathe. Like you, I have many balls in the air at any given time, and it’s easy to go from thing to thing without any time to recharge. I am also very good at working myself up into a frenzy, particularly where my children are concerned. Sometimes we all need to take a moment, a pause, so we don’t drown in our own storm. And, don’t stress about not doing it “right”, breathe in the way that feels right to you.

What are your resolutions for this new year?

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